Friendship and its value

FriendsI received a message from my good friend, reminding me of the coffee that I had when I was in Jakarta the last time and whether I had made my decision regarding their earn-more-money proposal. As you know, I spent a week in Indonesia to spend time with my family after my four-week sojourn in Europe.

When I was in Jakarta, I was contacted by a good friend who sympathised with my predicament of losing my brother and being caught in the uncertainty at the office. I have known him and his wife for years and we have become good friends along the way. The conversation started quite innocently about how I was doing and about my trip to Europe. However, after his wife joined our coffee, the conversation turned into the bizarre topic of, “Wouldn’t it be nice to travel around in business class and to live the rest of your life on passive income?”. Yup, you guess it right, they tried to recruit me into multilevel marketing. Instantly I told her, “You’re not trying to sell me ****** are you?”. She responded by saying, “No, no, it’s not about the product – it’s all about the Network and how to maximise your relationships! How to meet new people and take advantage of your circle of friends to help you along the way!”. The rest of the conversation was pretty much focused on the so-called benefits of joining this network. I gave them a non-committal response, saying that I would have a look at the website and decide later.

Yes, I would love to travel around in business class, and yes, I would love to live the rest of my life not having to work at all. However, in the process of chasing this elusive dream, I will alienate my friends, and run the risk of taking advantage and abusing my friendships. I’d rather live modestly wealthwise but live richly in the relationships that I build. Don’t get me wrong – I recognise the value of friends who can help you advance in life, and vice versa. However, to blatantly put monetary value and systematically take advantage of your friends is a bit too much!

So, as you can gather, I’m not in the market for any multilevel marketing, whether for the products, or for the network, or whatever. I will treat my friendships fairly and will not abuse my friends’ trust. My blessings come from above and not from the commissions from my ‘downlines’. It’s God’s prerogative to give the blessings to me through any avenue that He sees fitting. I don’t need to have an Emerald or Diamond status to be blessed. I am blessed just the way I am, because I am “a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, His own special people, that you may proclaim the praises of Him who called you out of darkness into His marvelous light”. (1 Peter 2:9 (NKJV).

Surely being an apple of God’s eye beats being a diamond in the eye of the world? 🙂


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  1. 1000% fully agree!!! ……… I have experienced the same feeling like you for MLM…… ‘the abuse of friendships’

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